I’m glad I’m not the only one who hangs on to certain hurts and slights too long – even if my company is a fictitious character of Susan Isaacs’s. From her novel, Past Perfect: “Most people have one or two things in their lives that still anger or disturb them five, ten, forty years later. And someone else can say, ‘Isn’t that ridiculous, your letting something like that bother you. Get over it!’ But you and I are both old enough to know that what’s ridiculous to someone else isn’t the least bit foolish to us.”
I read somewhere that better relationships are made by cultivating poorer memories. I think that’s a pretty good trade-off – for the most part.